Turning 27
*cue Jorja Smith’s ‘Lost & Found’ 🎶
I’m turning 27 this July, as the title reads. While there’s nothing significant about being pushed out of someone’s vagina (I do have a lot of appreciation for my mother since she threw me into this pit of hell aka life — have you heard of it?), it took me a long time to understand what a clear version of happiness should look like. There’s a reputable amount of science behind the manifestation of good vibrations and good energy, and why the production of joy is so important to get us through our grayed out life.
Previously, I wrote about my fear of connections. The biggest fear of connection I have is with myself, which fortunately, I’ve been making great progress with. A big part of this is about practicing mindfulness, especially with everything that is in the now. Traction is action that pulls you towards what you want to do, allowing you to create that meaning for your life.
If I’m gonna be totally fucking honest, this was one of the most difficult things I had to do for myself. I’m a tad uncomfortable with labels but I’ve been living with an active diagnosis of bipolar disorder ii, which is helpful in setting context to the complexities of this illness. I had to force to change my state through my experiences, most of which were slow and painful. I was stuck in a constant loop of bad decisions; it was almost like an open invitation for bad energy to seek me out anyday, anytime — allowing for negative thoughts to live in my head rent-free. All in all, it was absolutely awful.
I had to nix the toxicity, get rid of junk and give myself a working chance to understand why I had to stop going to bed with burning energy on negative emotions. It was hard to chart out 27 lessons because there’s just so fucking much more that contributed to my growth and progress but these are some of my top favourites that have gradually changed the course of my life.
- Kindness is the most important thing in the world, it’s a weird kind of superpower if you will
- Assholes can be smart, and they know how to maximize the effectiveness of their cruelty
- Empty your cup by letting go of expectations and assumptions about how things are supposed to be, allowing life to surprise you
- When your cup is full, you don’t need anyone else’s fluid
- The presence of love will always cast out fear
- Most of us are cowards, even the bravest at times
- Jump into the unknown and believe you can have what your heart desires
- Perspectives are powerful: you can walk into an empty room and decide if you feel lonely or liberated
- If you don’t respect yourself, there’s not much point trying to earn anybody else’s
- Leave other people’s mistakes where they lie
- Vulnerability is unavoidable if you want to love and be loved, if you want to really connect with people
- The sexiest thing in the world is being really smart
- Everything is temporary, existence is fleeting. We have to come to terms with this in order to live well
- Find things that make you laugh
- Laugh at yourself
- Ideas are cheap, execution is game
- Heartbreaks will always feel like the first time
- Always trust your body to burn that emotional fuel — a single run (or any kind of sports you prefer) can make you feel better
- Don’t keep count of things you do for people if it’s coming from a place of complete genuity (see also: 3)
- Believe in the law of attraction: it instantly injects hope into anyone who feels hopeless — slay the dragons to become who you’re meant to be
- Find peace in ways that work for you and live in that moment entirely
- Sometimes people are going to think you’re a fucking bitch no matter what, and that’s ok
- Always dress to inspire
- Time yields a greater return than any savings account ever could — the more you put into it, the more you get back out
- The little details matter, an unspoken gift that always find its way into someone’s heart
- While this may be overrated, I do recommend everyone to practice gratitude as a great way to kickstart your day (see also: 21)
- Trust your gut, instinct is everything
